You don’t know tall: The perils of being a 6’5″ single woman

So Buzzfeed’s got a piece up on tall women dating short men. I’ve wasted most of the morning reading the posts and accompanying comments. A few of may favorites? Not wanting to date shorter men is sexist, Jezebel comments where all these 5’10” women are talking about how hard it is to find taller men, and the Guardian piece where the author admits that 5’10”, while tall, isn’t freakishly tall.

As a member of the freakishly tall female clan (6’5″ in my bare feet), I find all this endlessly fascinating. While I understand what the 5’10” shorties mean when they say they just want a tall hunk of a man to curl into, I can’t help but snort in derision. It’s so snotty, I know. But come on, are the six-foot men really that hard to find? Every guy I know claims to be 6 feet tall (which makes me anywhere from 6’5″ to 7’2″ depending on the man).

I have always, always, always, always dated men shorter than me. I don’t have a choice really, there aren’t a lot of men taller than me. Plus, growing up a taller woman was never that weird. My mom is 5’10” and on his best days my dad might reach 5’7″.

So it was never weird to date shorter guys. In fact, I never even dated someone taller than me until I was in my late, late 20s. I discovered two things:
1.) Height cannot be the only thing you have in common, sadly
2.) It’s weird dating someone taller. I’m used to being the tallest person in the room no matter where I go. Always. So when I’m around someone taller than me I have this constant feeling that someone is reading my newspaper over my shoulder. It’s disconcerting.

While I would like to sit up here on my high horse, I cannot deny that I have rejected men for being too short. I am not comfortable dating a man who is close to a foot shorter than me. Is that sexist? Perhaps, but I don’t care.

That being said, dating a shorter man has more to do with the individual guy then some arbitrary number. I’ve been with 5’10” men who have made me feel like the most attractive, beautiful creature to ever walk the earth, and I’ve been with 6’7″ men who have made me feel like pond scum. I’ve realized, much too late in life, that the way he makes me feel is much more important then what people might think when they see us together.

So why don’t we see more tall women with shorter men? I think it all comes down to self confidence. Shorter men don’t approach tall women because they are sure they will be rejected, tall women don’t approach short men for the same reason.


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134 Comments

  1. Peabo 07.Sep.07 at 3:34 pm

    Man, I took issue with that chick’s comment in the first paragraph. Not dating a guy because he’s short isn’t ‘sexist.’ It has nothing to do with his sex. Heightist, maybe. But if she’s going to criticize, she should at least criticize with the right label.

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  2. Jodi 07.Sep.07 at 3:37 pm

    I think it was a Dude who wrote that one, but you’re right it’s not sexist.

    I was once called a racist for not wanting to date a shorter man.

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  3. UH 07.Sep.07 at 4:47 pm

    I never got to date anyone taller than me, as I am also 6’5″. I would totally have dated a tall chick, though, as long as she had a nice rack. A guy has to have his priorities.

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    1. Moony 24.Mar.11 at 1:27 am

      Hi there
      I am interrested in tall women and i appreciate if you write me a letter
      I am 5.9f, slim and athletic, down to earth
      i want to be with a tall women
      hope to hesr from you soon
      Yours M.harvey

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  4. Jodi 07.Sep.07 at 4:51 pm

    Oh, I know what you mean. I’d totally date a midget if he had a GIANT penis. We girls have priorities too.

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  5. UH 07.Sep.07 at 5:14 pm

    Of course, giant to a midget is pretty much just normal to anyone else.

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  6. Jodi 07.Sep.07 at 5:17 pm

    It’d have to seem giant to me, ya heathen.

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  7. shokkou 07.Sep.07 at 6:06 pm

    … imagining a midget with a schlong that would look giant to a 6’5″ woman. *snort!* bwahahaha!

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  8. JSkunk 09.Sep.07 at 10:30 pm

    I think the punchline is 10 lbs, 2 ounces.

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  9. JSkunk 09.Sep.07 at 10:37 pm

    BTW, your comments about how you feel rather than what others think are touching and sweet.

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  10. vill 10.Oct.07 at 11:17 am

    I have a great relationship with a 6ft woman, I am 5ft3.we have been dating for about 3 months now,in getting to know each other, we both came to the realization , that height doesnt matter and for us it is in fact , the only thing we do not have in common.The one thing a shorter man has to have in dating a tall woman is confidance, and a sense of humor, it helps when you have to ask for a kiss , because you cant reach that high.

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  11. Natalia 28.Oct.07 at 10:48 am

    Hello! Just stumbled over this entry of yours while researching Sophie Dahl, and all I have to say is – preach it! I’m only 5’8″ and I’ve continuously felt weird and awkward about being “tall,” and you know, this is the time to start getting over that.

    Your post made me realize that it’s really all about confidence. I honestly wonder how many potentially good relationships never saw the light of day because of “ZOMG, he’s short!”

    I’m just glad that I was able to get over that, in part, when I met my boyfriend – who’s a few inches shorter. In fact, I think I’ll be writing an essay about all of this. I might contact you for an interview you at some point.

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    1. Emma 13.Oct.11 at 7:24 pm

      @Natalia, Yeah, 5’8″ isn’t tall. So please shut up.

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  12. monceau 16.Dec.07 at 3:26 pm

    I’m a relatively short man (5’8″) and have always wanted to date a taller, sophosticated and well-built woman (6 feet and up), but have not been successful finding such a partner as yet, anyone here?

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  13. Jodi 16.Dec.07 at 3:34 pm

    Good luck on your quest. I hate to break it to you, but this isn’t a dating site or a personals site or a place to find sophisticated, well-built 6 feet and up women.

    It’s just me, crude, tall, and poorly built.

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  14. andreas 05.Jan.08 at 9:03 pm

    I am a man of middle haight 1.78 cm (5.10ft),and I have a problem….I always could have almost every girl of my heihgt and less,but never a taller one…only once i had a relationship with a girl that was 1.83 and i liked it very much cause I appreciate and like tall women…so if there’s any tall woman interested,
    plzz contact me through msn or e-mail…my id is andreasN.Kosmos@hotmail.com
    that’s for now…kisses…!

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  15. Steve 21.Jan.08 at 7:26 pm

    Well, 6’5″ Single Woman, you’ve essentially realized the key of going beyond what society says people should want in one another. That key is how the guy makes you feel feminine, smart, sexy, secure, and appreciated. The “5’10” shorties” to which you refer don’t yet realize that they are fooling themselves thinking a guy needs to be taller to make them feel protected when it’s really their true desire to feel EMOTIONALLY secure and protected. I am 5’2″ and from the moment I notice a tall gorgeous girl from across the room, I see her smile, blush, and melt in the most feminine way.

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  16. Jay 24.Mar.08 at 4:51 pm

    Just wondering how this topic came up. As a tall male, the only time I can think that height makes a difference to me is on the dance floor. There’s a lot more about personal compatibility than height. The tragic implication of your experience with the tall ones who treated you like pond scum tells me you already know this. Nonetheless, not all males of the relatively taller category treat their dates that way, and some of us actually treat them well.

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  17. Alex 11.Apr.08 at 10:07 am

    I just wanted to add it’s all about confidence I’m 5,6-5,7 at most and last week I found out that a woman I work with…actually has a had a crush on me…she is 6,3 beautiful and simply wicked…she stepped up and asked me out because she figured I would never have asked her for fear rejection. (she was right didn’t think I had a chance in h-ll) So all I have to say is there are some tall women who will date a shorter man….but my fellow short men you need to be confident in yourself!!! It all starts there.

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  18. Em 13.Apr.08 at 8:25 pm

    Wow I can absolutely agree with everything you’ve said. I’m 6’4″ and never dated a guy taller than me. My current partner is about 5″10. It’s absolutely fine, not a problem, except that I sometimes get upset by other people’s comments. People ask him if he has to stand on a box to kiss me. Random people on the street feel they have the right to shout out “She’s too tall for you!”. People are so cruel and rude sometimes.

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    1. mark 17.Apr.11 at 5:59 pm

      I have alot of respect for you. many many women have the unbendable rule that they wont date a man shorter than them. im 5ft 5in, and even women 5ft 2in adhere to the rule that a man cant be short , often times only dating men that are 5ft 9 or over for example. I also agree with you about people being openly nasty about the height issue. Im attracted to bigger and taller women and i couldnt care less about what ignorant people think. The only problem is its not very readily available to meet a woman like this especially one that would be interested in me because of my height. i wish there were a website for tall women and short men to meet.

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  19. Paul 08.May.08 at 12:46 pm

    Nice to read sensible comments for a change! I’m 5’5 and regretably turned down a lass I fancied in my teens because she was about 6’2. I regretfully bottled it because of what others might think. Now I’ve grown up (lol, in my outlook on life etc that is)Im more than pleased to say that fate has thrown us together again after some 20 yrs and I am proud to be reunited with my tall girlfriend.So to hell with what others might think,e know better! We have a fantastic thing together and height difference is certainly no longer a concern. Good on ya 6’5 babe.
    🙂

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  20. Andy 14.May.08 at 5:08 pm

    I’m a pretty short guy (5’8″ on a normal day, maybe 5’9″ if I sleep real well) and I’ve been told that this is “average height” which is a gigantic load of bull. Nearly every where I go I can spot easily hundreds of people that are taller than me, and a good deal are ladies. I’ve got a preference for tall ladies, and don’t feel intimidated by taller women at all, but I feel as if I’ve not a chance in hell to get with them.

    I’ve got a female friend who’s around 6’2″ and she told me she would never date a man who was more than an inch shorter, which to me, was a fairly progressive stand-point (awfully insecure and shallow, but better than some other things I’ve heard). She obviously never even considered that she’d be hurting my feelings (not that we were dating, but still, way to make me even less emotionally stable). It seems to me that women who are tall only date short men when, in your case, they’ve really got no choice, or, rarely, they aren’t overly shallow. Tall women are insecure because they feel like everyone stares at them, and don’t want to be the freak on display. I would never want to be with someone who feels the need to be that way.

    Amazonian babes, listen up, short men are really cool. We treat you right because we will be really grateful just to hold your hand, or be seen with you in public. We’re funny and truly interesting to make up for our lack of sex appeal, and we’ll make you feel like goddesses. You’ve just gotta give us one chance to prove ourselves. Tall men will treat you worse than a short man will. They are spoiled and brash. They will cheat on you and make you feel bad.

    The next time a short man asks you out, consider him for a minute. You might just find your next true love.

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  21. donkey 09.Jun.08 at 12:24 pm

    hi there.! i am a 5’2″ indian male (short,fat and ware glasses)not looking good so far. I work face to face with customers all day long. Young ,old, men and lots and lots of beautiful women of all types and sizes, working in such an environment has boosted my condidence no end and now i will brush off any hurtful or inipropreate comments about my height because i’m the bigger man (so to speak?). I have found that a woman will fall for you because your the best man she has ever met and if she can see past the height difference thing , i can’t see why the relationship won’t work.

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  22. Tracy 10.Jun.08 at 8:51 am

    I know of many guys (me included) that are attracted to a taller woman. Is it weird that I would want to be with a woman that might stand a head taller?
    It is a thrill to have that long body taking up all my visual space as we stand close or dance with those arms all around me.

    Jodi? If you still look at this piece. I want to say you’re a rare find. You give hope to those guys that do like the tall side of the female world.

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  23. Tracy 10.Jun.08 at 8:52 am

    I forgot to state I’m 5’8″.

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  24. Rob 12.Jun.08 at 1:30 am

    I am a 5’5″ tall guy, and have been since high school. In high school I attracted a girl who was about 6’5″ (a foot taller). I didn’t ask her out for fear of what others will say and think. I also attracted a woman who must have been about 6′ 7″ or 6′ 8″ while on a line in a convenience store. I was up to her shoulder, and had fear again of what other people will say. I know these 2 height differences are extremely substantial, but they showed me something about self-confidence and making taller women feel good as well. For years and years I was turning down numerous chances to date more than a dozen women who are taller than me. Several were much taller. That’s when I began to realize that tall or short, women have a heart, a soul, and personality. So I began to just treat women with respect for all of the characteristics that make them ladies. Being relaxed, friendly, personable, and sharing a sense of humor, has been among the reasons why I’ve had so many tall women show interest in me. Short ones too. But when I look up at a lady who is a few inches taller, or even 10 + inches taller, I don’t treat them differently or look at them like they are different. I never ask a tall lady, “How tall are you?”, unless I get to know her enough, and in conversation she wouldn’t feel uncomfortable telling me. I never ask women who are 5’10” and over, “Do you play basketball?” or “Are you a Volleyball player?” Some tall women are nurses, lawyers, teachers etc. I also don’t ever say to a very tall woman, “Wow, you’re so tall!” I’m not informing her of something she doesn’t already know. Besides, I don’t want for her to say, “Wow, you’re so short!”…”Do you play miniature golf?” Ha Ha 🙂 All in all, I’ve become so used to just treating any lady, with class and talking with her because she is interesting, has a great sense of humor, or a great personality. At this point, I don’t even think much about the height of a taller woman. This has made me confident enough to get dates, as well as having made taller women feel good about themselves and dating me or other short guys. We are all born with very little control over what our height will be as adults. But we have a lot of control over how we percieve others, and how we connect. We also have a lot of control over how we communicate with people no matter what their height. To me, it is not about a taller woman’s height, it’s about making a taller woman feel good, appreciated, and respected for who she is as a lady. Plus, making her laugh and feel connected in interests as well as personality, can easily make height of lesser issue. The lady who is 6’5″ and wrote the post, has a great point, that how a man makes her feel is more important than what others might think if she’s seen together with a shorter man. Confidence and mutual respect make a huge difference in such relationships. When taller woman date shorter men and vice versa, ultimately others who may make comments, would see that other compatibilities exist. Love, care, and friendship would be the tallest of all.

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    1. Faith 18.Jun.11 at 8:03 am

      @Rob,
      I find short, thick men very sexy. I am 5’10, and my love is 5’4. I really don’t care what others think, because he is perfect for me! Don’t discount shorter men, ladies.

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  25. sniper 17.Aug.08 at 2:17 pm

    I’m a man (5’4) and have wanted a taller, well-built woman (upto 6 ft), but have not been finding such a partner as yet,but once i had a relationship with a girl that was 5.6 and so if there’s any tall woman interested,
    plzz contact me through e-mail…my id is mamr_a@yahoo.com

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  26. Holtz 18.Aug.08 at 1:59 am

    These comments are hilarious! I can’t believe I missed them before.

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  27. Jodi 18.Aug.08 at 8:53 am

    It’s kind of why I leave them. They crack me up. I don’t think a lot of the commenters even know what in the hell they are writing on. Does this look like a personals site?

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    1. Jawan 03.Dec.11 at 9:09 am

      You look very strong and sexy. Do you like gift cards?

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  28. James Roessler 22.Aug.08 at 2:11 pm

    I am 52 and 5’11” in height,, and I love to be the shorter one.. I love the woman to be taller .. to the woman who wrote the above article.. The Perils of being 6’5… I would love to know you.. I am 52 and still single, becouse I love the taller woman, taller than I am..

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    1. Jawan 03.Dec.11 at 9:12 am

      @James Roessler,
      james, no offense, but I do wonder if some guys like you tend to be attracted to many crossdresser types, to compensate for a shortage of women who meet your height requirements.

      most male crossdressers will easily fit it, and I wonder if you might have developed your feelings based on your attraction to them.

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      1. Jim Roessler 13.Mar.12 at 7:30 am

        No I am attracted to very tall women… (Not cross dressers)..

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  29. therobinfliesagain 09.Sep.08 at 2:15 am

    ye, i love taller women,however; since i am 5’8″ tall I always had cold feet and chickened out and found a girl who was more “fitting” to my stature. But now i’m starting to think why not? If I like the person it shouldn’t be a problem.

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  30. tiny 16.Sep.08 at 9:39 am

    Yeah, the grass is always greener. As a 6-8 guy (for real), the one thing I’ve always wanted to meet is a girl who is at least eye-level, or close. But everyone always says different…

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  31. B 11.Nov.08 at 8:54 pm

    Wow. This whole thing has been so amazing and eye opening for me to read. And I thought that I had it bad. I’m a 5’11 woman, and I always had this complex with shorter men. I always strayed away from shorter guys who were interested in me because I felt like I would make them feel like I was this giant and that they were insufficient. I also always liked the idea of having a guy bigger than me to just be able to envelope me in his arms, as sappy as that sounds. But recently, I have really started to become attracted to a guy that is 5’6, and it’s been killing me thinking about all of this kind of stuff. I needed validation that a tall woman and short guy could work out. I had no idea how many men liked dating taller women! This has opened my eyes and empowered me. Thank you. 🙂

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  32. Shronda 11.Nov.08 at 10:18 pm

    Being “different” always caused me to second guess my worth, my attractiveness and my appeal. I was forever concious of the stares, the dumb comments, people automatically being intimidated by me,etc. But in time, I realized that what was most important was how I saw myself… I used to discriminate against shorter guys because I thought we’d look “silly” together. Then I came to myself and decided I would be an equal opportunity dater, I din’t want to miss out on a great guy simply because he was smaller in stature. I am a six footer and I actually think some guys are primarily attracted by the height itself. I once had a guy say to me, with his head barely coming up to my chest, “a short brother can’t get no play?” He was seriously about 5’2″, but I couldn’t be mad at him… Now I see how much confidence those shorter than I have and I dig that, they also make me feel more confident myself. I’ve mostly been wary of the size of my hands and feet, which are large, but are attributed to my stature. Like the author I dated a guy about 5’8 who made me feel absoltely gorgeous, like I was the sexiest woman on the planet, and none of his words or actions were about size, it was because he was diggin’ me…It is so about how an individual treats you and makes you feel special…Now that’s what’s up!

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  33. Shronda 11.Nov.08 at 10:42 pm

    He was 5’6 I meant to say…

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  34. K 06.Dec.08 at 12:23 am

    I am a 6’2 girl, that just found someone I think might be the one, and he is 5’9. I felt exactly how ” B” above felt, and I feel a lot better about it all now. I realized that I have never had anyone make me feel so happy, or special and that its time to get over what other people think.

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  35. Cane 12.Dec.08 at 5:30 am

    I’m 5’6″. I’d actually like to date silly tall women but I can barely work up the nerve to talk to short gals(my fault), I don’t think I can take being shut down by a mountain.

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  36. TB 14.Dec.08 at 9:17 pm

    Wow! I love how you go about being so tall, it’s really a confidence booster. Ha, after reading what you wrote, i know i have NO right to complain, but I am 5′ 11″ and 16 years old…hopefully I am done growing, I think I am. My boyfriend is about 3 inches shorter than me, and I was considering breaking up with him because of our height differences, but I’ve made my decision. Thanks!

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  37. Muuurph 15.Dec.08 at 11:07 am

    Damn, I found this while doing a GIS looking for porn involving tall chicks. What do I find? A reasonable well thought out bit on the struggles of a tall woman. I once knew a 6’4″ woman who was absolutely beautiful and intelligent and was going on a diet because she wanted to get back down to a size 6! It’s amazing the strange ideas people have about themselves.

    For the record, I’m 6’2″ and used to have great times with women close to a foot shorter than me, although as stated earlier the slow dancing (which as a white guy is about all I do) was a bit awkward. I’ve been happily married to a 5’7″ girl for 11 years now.

    Now back to surfing for porn (what else am I going to do at work?)

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  38. Jacie 24.Jan.09 at 1:51 pm

    This is an interesting topic. As a 5’2″ tall woman, I once had a man who was 7’2″ tall ask me for a date. The distance was a major factor, so it never materialized. The second gentleman was 6ft 10″ tall. Unfortunately, taller men do have heart problems due to the amount of blood flow required to regulate their hearts. The second gentleman informed me that he only had a few months left to live after we had been long distance friends for over 6 months. It was very heart breaking indeed. When meeting shorter men, I do find that they are extemely attracted to taller woman anywhere’s from 5’10” to over the 6′ foot marker. It is interesting how both tall and short men view woman. All in all, from what I have noticed is that most tall men would like to date woman who are at eyes height, whereas shorter men seem to be very attracted to very tall woman. And from this post, it seems that short guys seem to stand a better chance of dating tall ladies. And short girls are left out in the cold, especially woman who are 5’5″ or even shorter. Guys are lucky because most woman like them regardless of their height, it’s all about the confidence and respect for the other person. Still don’t know why these very tall men were so attracted to me, short men don’t even realize that I even exist. Then again I am very confident, and always respect all men regardless of height. It’s just natural for me to be kind and respectable at all times, and in all places. Don’t know why short guys avoid me, perhaps it’s because they feel more confident being with taller woman. From this site it seems that short guys should start dating taller woman like 5’10” to 6’10”. Where does this leave all the nice kind shorter woman? Alone forever!!! A sad prospect indeed . . .

    Jacie,

    One honest tiny lady says ‘Don’t worry short men you have a better chance of dating any woman,than short woman have of dating any man – short/tall. Enought said on this topic, you short guys are LUCKY!!!

    Short woman are UNLUCKY!!!

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  39. Amazon 27.Jan.09 at 11:14 pm

    I am 6’2 and live in an area with hardly any tall guys. This article was pretty awesome and a major confidence booster. Everyday almost random strangers tell me “you’re gorgeous” or “you’re so beautiful” but all I could see was “I’m tall”. I’m starting to believe what they say and I think I’m going to start embracing the height I have. Thanks guys 🙂

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  40. Don 31.Jan.09 at 1:09 pm

    well some men like dating tall women for the change , and some date all size women tall to small . Now I think if the women has a problem at dating a shorter man the the male may pick up on it a develop problems . but if the lady dose not have a problem with it them neather will the man she is with . that gose for some guys.
    Note Now for me I am an all size person myself .

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  41. Don 31.Jan.09 at 1:14 pm

    and being a male myself asking women out is a task in itself . men have the same fears as women do when it come to doing that at frist and for taller ladys , try asking out a shorter guy.
    you may be serprised

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  42. santiago 02.Feb.09 at 10:59 am

    :0 … i’m 5’2, never could date a girl that tall, but i don’t blame the height maybe i’m not using the right weapons :/

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  43. TL1584 04.Feb.09 at 1:59 pm

    IM A 5’7 GUY MY GIRLFRIEND IS 6’5,SHE IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL SWEETEST GIRL IVE EVER MET AND I LOVE HER!!

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  44. TL871 05.Feb.09 at 6:39 am

    Its not the height of the person that matters its their personality, and whether you ‘connect’ with them.

    I am 6’5″ and have dated women who are 5’3″ – no problem. Enjoy the person forget the height!

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  45. Kinz 11.Feb.09 at 11:42 pm

    I LOVE this article! I’m a 5’11” tall gal. I used to be very self conscious about my height, and I only wanted to date tall guys, but they all turned out to be overconfident jerks. My boyfriend right now is 5’7″ and he’s the most amazing person ever! Height doesn’t matter if you really love each other.

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  46. jason 12.Feb.09 at 2:38 am

    I have a bone disease, and I am only 5ft3. my gf is 5ft11. we love each other alot, and height doesn’t matter.

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  47. eddie 15.Feb.09 at 10:29 am

    i am 5’5 and my wife is 6’3. she has high heels that make her 7 feet. she rules the house and we never have a problem. tall women are great.

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  48. eddie 15.Feb.09 at 10:31 am

    you do not know the thrill of being lifted and kissed by a tall womem.

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  49. Jacie 01.Mar.09 at 11:27 am

    It’s been a while since I checked this site. I truly love this site. You guys are awesome! Tall womam and men are very beautiful. You have no worries. I am short, but my respect and honesty have won me tall men who are very near and dear to me (5ft 10″ – 6ft 10″). I don’t connect well with short guys, but tall guys rule my world. I have had more tall men ask for dates than short men. I love tall men, because they don’t let height get in the way of their deep sincere love for their sweetheart!

    Happy to know that tall men/woman are not only confident, but they don’t let height get in the way of their feelings for one they truly care for even if the person is not at eye level. This is a good feeling to know!

    Love you guys!!!

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  50. Big Dee 12.Mar.09 at 11:37 pm

    Hello, Jodi. I was surfing various websites and I came across your blog. You have to be the third tall single young woman who wrote something about the “TALL WOMAN/SHORT MAN” dating situation. I’m still scratching my head about it. You talked about dating short confident guys. You never gave a legit reason why you don’t date guys taller than you are. I do understand that there are not that many guys that stand taller than 6’5″. As quiet as it’s kept, I’m 6’6″, 310lbs. (Guess my nickname BIG DEE didn’t give that stat away.) I guess I’m sitting on the male end of your universe. I’m a tall guy looking for a tall gal. I’ve avoided dating gals under six foot just because they always insist on using you like a beanstalk and their name in “JACKIE”. I’ve dealt with so many short women that I feel like Gulliver trapped on a all-female Liliput. I think that the real problem is that the majority of six foot tall women here in Detroit are dating guys shorter than they are. You don’t see alot of six foot couples around here. I’m the type of guy that STILL believes in chivalry. You know, opening doors for your lady, protecting your gal, cuddling with your bo on cold nights. Stuff like that. I look forward to your response.

    Ciao,

    Big Dee

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  51. johnny 12.Jul.09 at 6:02 pm

    I have seen a video where a man is about 30″ tall married to a woman over 5L6″. That to me was unbelievable. But anything less than ifoot difference is OK

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  52. Bruce 26.Jul.09 at 7:07 pm

    Im actually a 6′ 4″ guy and I’d love to have a woman as tall as me, 6′ 5″ is ok too 🙂

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  53. wade vick 09.Aug.09 at 6:26 pm

    I’m a male 6ft. tall and I won’t date a woman less than 6ft myself. Although what’s on the inside is what counts…my goal is to find that awesome beauty who spans over 6ft. I guess it had something to do with my first love who was 6’6″. If only I could I could find a 7 foot tall woman…I would be so happy!!(THen I could put her in some heels!!) A woman under 6 foot is just so typical.

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  54. shela 09.Oct.09 at 4:37 pm

    I’m six foot and short men are always trying to talk to me in nite clubs, its as though tall me are intimidated by me, short me look at me as a challenge. I just want to be happy right now I’m so lonely because I want a good man size doesn’t really matter its what’s in the heart that’s really important.

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    1. Bruce 09.Jul.13 at 5:54 pm

      I seek tall women. I am 6′ 3” tall and around 200 lbs. Not much for the bar seen. Just would like to casual date once in awhile.

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  55. ED 12.Oct.09 at 6:49 pm

    Four words: Susan. Anton. Dudley. Moore.

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  56. Busi 07.Nov.09 at 2:27 am

    I am a six foot tall woman who absolutely adores her heels and will not wear flats under any circumstances. I have been fortunate to date men that have been taller than me but it has been hard finding a man who is six foot and taller and not had an issue with me wearing heels. I would love to meet that man! Men generally find me intimidating no matter how much I try to accomodate them and I have been told that its because I am slim, black and beautiful. I just want a man who won’t be intimidated and appreciate me for who I am!

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  57. JASON MURPHY 11.Nov.09 at 8:01 pm

    I am only 5.2 and I never had a date before. Women alwanys tell me I am too short, not their type, or too nice. I will love to date tall women. Height doesn’t matter. Taller they are the bigger the hugs and heart. For me big things come in smaller packages like my heart. For women who are tall its even a bigger heart… So please give me a call at seven zero two five zero one one five three two. Lets talk and be happy… Hugs… Jason

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  58. Johnny Candrosa 05.Dec.09 at 6:04 pm

    Being 6’9″, I sure wish there were more taller women out there. Although one of my best friends is less than 5′, I find dating shorter women to be uncomfortable. Even more uncomfortable is trying to find a car that isn’t a luxury sedan. So it goes.

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  59. jim 12.Feb.10 at 11:52 am

    I’m at 5’1 guy and used to think i could not have a women less taller than myself. But just last year i dated a super tall women who is 6’4 . i feel brilliant because size does not matter

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  60. rebec 14.Feb.10 at 5:14 pm

    hello! i am a 30 year old single 6’4” woman who doesn’t share the story of ‘dating shorter men’ but has the story of ‘lack of dating due to scared short men’. i am open to dating men shorter than me (to an extent, i have to admit…. 5’10” might be my cut off) but regardless, it is always so much more THEIR problem rather than mine. yes, the old quote of confidence that i hear from friends ‘well, then you wouldn’t want them anyway….’ fair. but seriously- where to turn? where do i look for a man of solid character, emotional maturity and good sense of self….. who of course can handle and would love to behold a woman of my size? -annoyed.

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    1. Bill 02.Jan.11 at 4:06 pm

      @rebec,
      Right here!

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    2. robert a. moore 21.Jul.13 at 8:48 am

      Hello Rebec.My name is Robert.I would like to connect with you.I’m 5 10 and have the qualities you seek.I’m 46 years old,in great shape and work full timePlease leave me your contact info so we can get aquianted.You can reach meatrobsarmada1234@yahoo.com.Thankyhou and I look forward to hearing from you

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  61. Dave 19.Feb.10 at 2:02 am

    I am a 5’6″ tall male, and I have always loved and been fascinated with taller women. If they are 6ft, and they want to wear 4 or 5 inch heels, I say more power to them. It doesn’t bother me they they are taller, or can make themselves taller than they are. I have found the the problem lies with the women. They see a shorter guy, and they are like…”no way” They seem to feel like giants next to a shorter guy, no matter how hard any of us shorter guys try to make them feel pretty, and loved.

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    1. Charles Lovett 10.Jul.20 at 3:29 pm

      Hi. I’m Charles. I’m 6’6″ myself and it has always been a dream of having a woman my height. If there’s one out there please let me know.

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  62. Axel Nelson 18.Jun.10 at 11:01 am

    i was lucky to find a taller women & we are in love. the only problem: when we have sex foreplay, she claims that she must whip me to get her in the mood.

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  63. Hannah 22.Jun.10 at 7:22 pm

    I have friends that are a tall couple. They met in college. The wife is 6 ft 4 and the husband is 6ft 7. They have two kids that are very tall for thier age, long and lean. I am 5 ft 8 and as a teen I wore high heels often and people used to go on and on about how tall I was because they were mostly 5 ft 3 or so. Once a woman asked me if I had to order special clothes because I was so tall. I was somewhat amused and offended at the same time. I have dated men as tall as 6 ft 9 and as short as 5 ft 9. Once I went to college I found that I wasnt really tall for a female that I was average. I met and married a man who is 5 ft 11 and 3/4 and the best thing about being close in height is kissing and hugging each other.

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  64. Alexis 23.Jun.10 at 10:24 pm

    I just wanted to say how much I appreciate this blog! And I was wondering if 6’2″ is “freakishly tall”?

    It’s nice to know that there are other people out there who have the same concerns as me. I’ve always been awkward because I’m a red-head,super pale, and rather thin. And I’m 17 years old. Hearing people talk about how tall people can be comfortable in their own skin makes me feel better about my height (I love wearing heels).

    And might I add that I would like to punch those people who whisper behind my back, “Whoa, look, she’s tall!” in their faces??

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  65. tony 25.Jun.10 at 7:00 am

    Hi
    I would just like to leave a comment…. I am a young 35yr old man form the UK. I have dated several women between 6ft and 6ft7 of different ages ranging from 19 -47 and from different cultures and social standing. I like a few men find taller women more exquisite, glamourous ect.
    However a common trend if find only with the ladies i have dated is their overiding insecurities especially around their height. Issues growing up suffering veerbal abuse from people because they were taller ect.
    I take heart that i have met these individuals and helped them ovceercome some of thier historic issues allowing them to grow and glorify who they are.
    On a lighter note…… I thinkm the sex is much better with a taller woman, i love it because theres much more to handle and play with and if their body is in porportion with their height.. “GOD DAMN” you can do much more than you can with a smaller person. Please dont judge me as i am only talking from my experiences.

    Thx for listening

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  66. Rocky 30.Jun.10 at 10:02 pm

    I’m a guy (5’9″), but thin build. I do yoga. I’m strong, but I guess I don’t look like it, and my personality isn’t very macho. I am kind and respect others…and realize that we all come in different shapes and sizes.

    Having said that, I have found that I do like to be the smaller one in a relationship. I can’t understand or explain why just yet…but do I need to? Can’t I just feel a certain way? It’s perhaps because of my naturally smaller build (although I must digress and mention that I’m quite normal size where it counts). 🙂 I have embraced my physicality and myself, and I’ve decided that I like the way nice women treat me regardless of their size/shape.

    Undeniably though, I’m very attracted to tall women … for some reason I have been able relate to them on a physical level all my life. I have had one girlfriend who was taller than me, and I loved her very much even though it didn’t work out. I will always love her. I have had one girlfriend who was exactly my height, and I loved her. I will always love her too. And I’ve had several girlfriends who were not as tall as me. I loved them too, except for one, I will always love them too (one of them turned out to be a stalker…and I don’t much care for her).

    Anyway, I have great respect for the author of this blog for having the courage not only to embrace life as a tall woman, and in action, essentially ‘correct’ what is so archaic and wrong with our society’s values and perspectives on gender and height, but also for having put it out here on the WWW, so that others can benefit from this knowledge. Addressing these issues makes you unimaginably HOT. It takes independence, confidence, and true intelligence to arrive at your disposition.

    If I could close my eyes and wish for someone to come into my life…anyone, it just might be a tall confident, beautiful woman like you. And, If you could get over my cheesy pick up line, you’d see that everything about me is genuine and true in the long run.

    Thank you for posting this blog 🙂

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  67. Pete 10.Jul.10 at 4:12 pm

    I’m a shorter man. Barely 5’5″. Early in my life I gave up on dating shorter women because I believed they would only date much taller guys. Sure I was half right but I soon realized those shorter women also have their own insecurities about their height.

    So I turned to taller women and saw them as a viable challenge and not a waste of my time. I actually believed dating a taller woman was easier because they have trouble finding men like me and be of equal height.

    Upon exploring this topic fully I have found this. People have preferences and some stick to them for longer periods of time, due to their own insecurities. In this case my old insecurity of my height.

    Yet I have also found that these are just preferences. And when I attract women, my height only comes into play when her own insecurities of her height cause her mind to narrow down her choices, by height alone.

    You wrote,

    “While I would like to sit up here on my high horse, I cannot deny that I have rejected men for being too short. I am not comfortable dating a man who is close to a foot shorter than me. Is that sexist? Perhaps, but I dont care.”

    I don’t think it’s sexist at all. That’s just a term people use loosely to describe a person’s viewpoint that is different than there own. For example, if a man believes women should be at home with the kids and another calls it sexist, it is never taken into account the reason behind his logic. Therefore until he proves himself to be a sexist pig, as far as I’m concerned his opinion is his own.

    However I believe, because of your unwillingness to date much shorter men, if has a little to do with your insecurities in being tall yourself. Aside from that, I’m not here to judge your preferences.

    My point is merely to call out one important factor which seems to be missing from my causal glancing of the comments,

    Our preferences change as we grow each day because of our experiences and how we act or react to them. Meaning your preferences have not been altered because you either:

    1) Have failed to allow shorter men to approach you.

    2) You have yet to meet a smaller guy who is powerful and confident enough to make you feel more secure as a taller woman.

    Tall women may not find shorter men a viable dating option but I’m willing to bet there are a few men that can change their mind. Al Pacino. Danny Devito. Tom Cruise is only 5’7″. Paul Simon is 5’3″. Michal J. Fox is 5’4″. James Cagney was 5’5″ And the list goes on ending at me.

    You wrote,
    “So why dont we see more tall women with shorter men? I think it all comes down to self confidence. Shorter men dont approach tall women because they are sure they will be rejected, tall women dont approach short men for the same reason.”

    Well said!

    But let’s not again forget it takes two for approaching to lead to a conversation. It takes two in building a connection and when two people can not face each other eye to eyes, that connection requires a little more after approach to build that connection. It requires both people to get over their own height issues. And it also requires each person to allow the other to feel safe, or attractive, as you stated.

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  68. Apollo 23.Jul.10 at 5:27 pm

    I’m all for the taller ladies and the shorter ladies too. Beautiful women come in all different shapes and sizes. I think people are forgetting the first thing that matters most physically when meeting a person, which is the face. I’m sure most of us have heard the saying, “the eyes are the windows of the soul.”
    I honestly don’t know if this is true, but regardless of how tall or short a woman is, the eyes, the smile and the facial features are what I look for first.

    Truthfully, I love taller women but I don’t ignore the short ladies. I stand 5’5 on my best day flat-footed, and in my dating history, I’ve had slightly better luck with the taller ladies. Women a couple inches shorter and a couple of inches taller, 5’1 – 5’9, I find are the pickiest and have the most hangups about a man’s height. Many times I’ve been refused by women shorter and much shorter who find me not tall enough to date. Men and women have preferences no doubt, but most of my guy friends, short and tall have no issues dating taller women. More often than not, it’s the taller ladies that have issues dating shorter men because they feel less feminine as the bigger person standing beside them or holding hands in public. The goal for me in this day and age is to try and eradicate the notion that masculinity and femininity are defined by height, which society seems to have a firm grasp of. A lot of women and some men still hold on to the prehistoric traditions that a man should always be taller than the woman for protection and security. That being said, I still keep my eyes open for the taller ladies who are confident in themselves, without a care in the world how tall or short a man is.

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  69. NeeNee 25.Aug.10 at 12:53 pm

    Im A Women Who Is 6ft, & i always had a problem dating short guys. Only reason for that is because i thought it would look weird. i always told myself that i will never date a short guy. but recently a short guy approached me and for once i gave him a chance. he is only 5’9 but his personality overshadows his height. My friend always told me that it shouldnt matter about the persons hieght. & i believe after reading this blog i have a different view on the height thing. what really matters is whats on the inside. Not the outside!

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  70. Bob 15.Oct.10 at 12:26 pm

    I’m married to a 26 yo woman that is 5’11” & larged boned. I’m 54 & stand only 5’5 with a slender build. We both are crazy about each other though. I didn’t think it would work in the beginning due to not only the height issue but the age thing as well. But she kept after me & leading me on so that after dating off & on since she was 19….we finally decided to marry 3 years back. We now have a 2 yo with another on the way in Feb 2011. I’m sure glad she kept after me…or I would lost her. Heck, she even carried me over the threshold on our wedding day.

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    1. Fred 03.Feb.11 at 10:13 pm

      @Bob, Great to hear.

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  71. BOBisaPervert 19.Oct.10 at 6:35 pm

    BOB you sound like a child molester you pervert. She will dump your as.s when you turned old and gray for the young college boy next door.Hope you live long to see your kids finish college.

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    1. Tarheel 29.Dec.10 at 10:23 pm

      Why do you say Bob sounds like a pervert and child molester? He dated and married an adult. They have a kid together.
      Young men have also died before their kids finished college. How is that relevant anyway? They knew of this possibility before marriage and it was their decision to marry anyway.

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  72. Asi 23.Oct.10 at 1:40 pm

    I am a 5′ 10” italian male. It is above average heigt here, and during my recent trip to Chicago I dind’t look shorter than the average american. Plus I am still growing (I’ll probably grow to be somewhere between 5′ 11”-6′). Therefore, height has never really been an issue. I have dated taller women and shorter ones too. However, I realized how being polite, charming and sensitive can annull any height difference.

    To all short guys; Immanuel Kant was only 5 feet tall, and he is among the Greatest Men Who Ever Lived. I would gladly give up all of my height, all of hair (men know what a scare that usually turns out to be as soon as you reach puberty) on my head, anything, just to be half the man he was. Honest.

    To Jason Murphy; your post almost made me cry. You are a great person, you sound like you’re very sweet and sensitive. Honestly, any woman vile enough to turn you down is nothing but a pathetic loser. I’ve seen plenty of tall men who turned out to be zeros throughout their lives and viceversa. You will soon make a lucky woman incredibly happy.

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  73. Edward 06.Jan.11 at 7:24 am

    i have read above notes but my case is different. a taller woman agreed to date me on 1 condition. i had to let her whip me because that made her have orgasm. i did agree to be whipped by her. she was so intense that i ended up hospitalized.

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  74. talldrinkofwater 17.Jan.11 at 8:32 am

    Hello,

    I am 5 ft. 10 and 3/4 inches (which I just round up to 5’11”), and I have to say that I take exception to the following comment:

    “While I understand what the 510? shorties mean when they say they just want a tall hunk of a man to curl into, I cant help but snort in derision. Its so snotty, I know. But come on, are the six-foot men really that hard to find?”

    To answer your question: YES, THEY ARE! First of all, the average man is not 6’0″ tall…hell, the average man is not even 5’10” tall. Second, for those men who are 6′, they aren’t interested in dating a woman who is close to their own height because they find it intimidating. Many men want a woman who looks petite and does not appear to challenge their masculinity.

    Now, I certainly understand that the hardships I’ve experienced being a 5’10”-11″ tall woman are tremendously magnified for you. But remember, just as 6’5 is not a common height for a woman, neither is 5’10”. I, myself, have been referred to as “freakishly tall.” I’ve heard the “too tall” jokes and the negative comments from people, especially men, my whole life. I am ignored and rejected by most men simply because of my height. I often have a difficult time finding clothes and shoes. The mainstream world makes it very clear that being above 5″8, as a woman, is not acceptable. With that said, while I understand why someone like you, who is 6’5″, considers 5’10” to be short, we are “shorties” by no means.

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  75. Apollo 20.Jan.11 at 4:05 pm

    TallDrinkOfWater posted these,

    “The mainstream world makes it very clear that being above 5’8, as a woman, is not acceptable.”

    “Many men want a woman who looks petite and does not appear to challenge their masculinity.”

    TDOW, try being 5’5 and walking in my short man shoes! Men shorter than 5’8 are subject to way more scrutiny and ill-treatment by society as opposed to women taller than 5’8. There’s no comparison between the two. A large part of this dissension comes from short and tall women who demand, not prefer, but demand that a man stand no shorter than 6’0. In fact, short guys face tons more discrimination than tall women because society continues to equate masculinity and handsomeness with tall men. Beauty and femininity are never defined by a woman’s height. Nobody would dare try and defeminize a 5’10 runway model. You say that tall guys ignore you and reject you because of your height? Why not consider a shorter guy who actually admires and appreciates your height and would treat you with the respect that you deserve? Not all men are intimidated by taller women. I certainly am not. On the flipside I think taller women have a distinct fear of shorter guys. They pass us off as fetish freaks the first instant any short guy shows interest in a taller woman. A lot of the same tall guys you tall ladies so richly desire aren’t mentally capable of dating a taller woman. You can’t change that. These men rely on their height because it defines who they are and nothing else about them. If it’s an absolute must for you to be shorter than your male partner, so be it, but that’s your problem. You can’t say that there’s a lack of quality men because there’s lots of good men who aren’t 6’0+. You just never notice us when you’re fixated with tall.

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  76. Apollo 21.Jan.11 at 2:26 pm

    One more thing for TallDrinkOfWater,

    Society says 5’10 is tall for a woman, but it’s not rediculously tall IMO. I don’t know how much consolation that is to you coming from 5’5 me. I consider you average height for a model.

    Now, I would never dare call you a freak or any tall woman a freak. Even Jodi, the author of this article who claims to be 6’5 barefoot, I wouldn’t call a freak. She’s just a whole lot taller than the average woman and there’s nothing wrong with that. More to hug, hold and love in plain english! Besides, poking fun at someone’s physique is rude. The men that call you these and other names aren’t worth your time and they likely have their own issues that you wouldn’t want to be a part of. Do recognize that some guys might be a little intimidated by your height, but not in a bad way. Tall women are an awesome sight for many short guys because we’re sometimes envious of the height you’ve been blessed with. I like my 5’5 frame but there are days I wish I was your 5’10. So when a shorter guy approaches you, don’t be so quick to pass him off as a fetish freak at first instance because he made reference to your height. Alot of it has to do with admiring your stature and appreciating who you are as a tall woman. Women with long legs are amazing and it can be quite the turn on for short guys. It’s just something that we don’t have, period. Either way, name calling is wrong and the same thing applies to people who make fun of short people. You’ll never know what it’s like to be called a shrimp, pipsqueak, runt, dwarf, or midget. Also, try dealing with people who blatantly refuse to respect you as a man and call you a kid. Sometimes I wonder what’s worse, the namecalling or not being taken seriously as an adult?! Either way, I don’t let it get me down because nobody likes a person who lives to feel sorry for themselves. Good luck to ya!

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  77. Dan 13.Feb.11 at 2:29 pm

    Im 5’11” i’ve been with my woman for 1 year now, she’s 6’4″ and – I FUCKING LOVE HER – just had to say that…

    I don’t care about what anyone else may say, and much less think we cant control peoples minds, although I do want to say that if we lived in a world free of judgement and obnoxious comments, a lot of people would be doing a lot of things that to us in our society today may seem to be less common – why because they would feel free to do so, free to not feel judged or made fun of for wanting to do what they really desired deep down –

    I love my woman regardless of our height difference, she’s the one…

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  78. sugar land Bill 27.Mar.11 at 8:34 am

    I was reading your blog, and I had to write about my experiences in trying to meet and date tall girls, so as to offer another males point of view.
    When I was 24, I met a divorced woman, 32, who was 511. I was 58. It was a brief affair, but I just could not get over her long legs and curvy broad hips. She possessed a tapered waist which only accented her curvy hips ever further. Because of her, I developed an appreciation for long legs and the natural curvy hips of a tall woman.
    The relationship ended due to the age difference, plus there were no jobs in the city I lived in. I lived in a city on the great lakes, and it was a rust belt city. I moved to Houston, TX, where I found a job quickly, and I moved into a singles apartment complex. Back then, Houston was the singles capital of America.
    In this apartment complex, there was a loose knit group of single men and women. The group would throw spur of the moment parties, we would go to Happy Hours given by local radio stations and other singles events. (I even dated one of the girls in the group for a while.) In this singles group was Heidi, 511, early 20s, blonde hair, blue eyes and attractive. I remember one time she was standing before me, while I was sitting in a chair by the complex pool. She was wearing a white 2 piece bikini. I looked up through her long tanned legs to those broad hips, bringing memories of the past. In the few times we talked, she never expressed any interest in me, and I accepted that.
    One Saturday, during the summer while at another pool in the same complex, I and2 or 3 other guys were having a few beers, when another man I knew walked up to us and mentioned that he had proposed to Heidi. She had turned him down, and he wanted anyone in the group, to put a good for him with her. To say the least, we were all stunned that a guy would say this to a group of acquaintances. Anyway, Heidi never did change her mind. A few months later, while at my pool, I overheard two girls talking about Heidi turning down two other men. I do not know if these girls were talking out of envy or were mocking these two men, but this showed that Heidi was getting the attention of men.
    I stayed at this apartment complex for two summers. (Fast forward 12 years, one child and one divorce later.) A friend of mine wanted me to join a singles dating organization. I said before I join, I want to see what some of the girls in this organization looked like. He obtained about 20 biographies with photos of the women. It must have been photo 8 or 9, but there was Heidi. Her name appeared on the top of the page, with her photo below and two paragraphs about her life. I remember this one phrase, 34 years old, never married, no children.
    I thought, how could this be? If she were not the most desirable girl in a social gathering, she certainly was one of the more desirable girls. I knew of three men who offered to marry her, and there must have been more. And this made me think about my own personal experiences as I approached taller women. As I went back in time, I remember two girls telling me to my face they wanted a taller man, one girl in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldnt have looked more uninterested if she had wanted to, another girl I approached looked at me as if I had insulted her for even talking to her. On line, I met a girl 511, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, another girl named Mary turned me down for a taller man. Now, you may say it is because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.
    This blog made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, for this letter, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was ugly, bald, fat, had a dead end job etc.. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height, as if you can measure a mans character or worth by using a yardstick. Not one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me. That later changed when I was divorced and single, but not for the right reasons.
    These tall females, who I dated, were in their mid to late 30s and found themselves with little to no interest from tall or short men. They experienced that a tall man was no more interested in dating a tall woman any more than a man with black hair wanted to date a woman with black hair. And the shorter men, like me, who for years had been rejected, were reluctant to get rejected again.
    I had a relationship with a girl 511 another 510, one wanted me who was 6, but all these girls were past their prime i.e. mid to late 30s. All three were divorced and found that men were not approaching them, just as Heidi discovered. And this made me wonder how many other women had squandered their youth and fertility because of the obsession for a tall man? I, who would have relished the opportunity of having curvy broad hips and a tapered waist to hold all night and to make love to into the early hours of the morning, was never, not once, even given a chance to start a relationship. That changed years later, when taller girls approached me, but my interest was for a younger female. For I could date younger women, and I did. When I was 38, my first girlfriend was 27, my next was 27, and my last was 24, who became my second wife.
    I am now married with sons 11, 7 and 3 along with a son 22 from my first marriage. I am a good father and husband. I give my boys attention and time, as a matter of fact last week; I went on a Boy Scout camp with the 11 and 7 year old. They have electric motorcycles, pedal carts, all sorts of video games, and have traveled many places for vacations. I have traveled the world on business, and my wife has been on a few trips with me. I have been to Singapore, Japan, Sarawak, Brunei, Russia, Italy, Saudi Arabia, Dubai, England, France, Netherlands, Scotland, Tunisia, Republic of Congo, Nigeria, Venezuela, Brazil, Mexico, Canada, Alaska, the Arctic Circle, Hawaii, and 20 – 30 states of the United States. I can almost say there is not a city in the US where I dont know of a good restaurant. I have 3 degrees, and I have co-authored a US patent. I have made over 6 figures for 10 plus years, my house (4 3.5 2) is paid for, so are my cars.
    I could have provided a good life to any girl. I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (20s age) gave me a chance. I was turned down consistently and without a second thought.
    So, if you are a single girl in your late 20s or early 30s with no prospect of a husband or children in the immediate future, you have no one to blame but yourself. There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, (I did not need to have a taller girl, but liked the idea.) But they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity. And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man until it is too late. You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males in your suitor selections, your odds would increase in finding a mate, for there are a lot more shorter males than there are taller ones. So my advice would be to accept the advances of all men and get to know them. Throw away the yardstick, you may find someone like me, who would love to share his life and love with a tall girl.

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    1. Keith 14.Aug.11 at 9:13 am

      You hit the nail on the head. What really makes me laugh is when those same females who reject men for being short(er) are rejected for being tall(er). THAT, they consider, is a crime TO THEM

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  79. mark 18.Apr.11 at 9:50 am

    are there any websites specically for tall women and short men to meet and date?

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  80. Mead 09.May.11 at 7:54 pm

    There are tons of tall guys out there but from what I’ve seen, most of them want short girls or they’re so full of themselves that they don’t appreciate women. I guess being 5’11” makes me the short type of tall. At the same time, I scoured the internet looking for men who were 6’0″-6’11”. And what I’ve noticed is not only ae they hard to find but women who are closer to 6’5″ seem to have great issue with me looking for men that tall. LOL. TBH, I think the women that are far in the tall range have a sort of resentment towards the 5’9-6’0″ women because we get to be tall without it being as shocking. Thing is, we all go through the same, you ladies just go through it more often and more severely.

    Anyway, my new boyfriend is half a foot shorter than me. We are thinking about getting married. I’m really not going to dump him on the slim chance I manage to find a guy that is taller. No more chasing peacocks for me. I want what is real and what is good and he’s good for me.

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  81. Apollo 19.May.11 at 4:01 pm

    “So why dont we see more tall women with shorter men? I think it all comes down to self confidence. Shorter men dont approach tall women because they are sure they will be rejected, tall women dont approach short men for the same reason.”

    Hey Jodi, women still do all the choosing of relationships. I’ve heard enough tall women complain about short girls stealing all the tall guys. I’ve also heard the same tall women complain about short guys being much better looking than the available tall guys. What’s up with that? It must be said that tall girls with their own physical issues avoid good-looking short guys in fear of being overshadowed by his looks. Also, society puts pressure on the tall girl to find an equally tall or taller guy and look like a “normal” couple.

    I will say that it is very true that many short guys don’t bother with taller girls. What’s the purpoose in trying when rejection is the likely outcome? Very few make room for shorter guys in the first place so why bother with them? The ones who actually do include us shorties are often past their child-bearing years. Why is it that short guys are never good enough for tall girls before they hit menopause? Does it take a rediculous number of bad dates, divorces and bad experiences with tall guys to make the tall girl look down and see that there is quality in short men?

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  82. tony 24.May.11 at 4:29 pm

    Just a quick line…
    I am 5’7″ i am 34 and since i hae been of an age to date for some unknown reason i have always dated women 6″ plus the tallest woman i dated was 6’4″.
    I would like to add what i have found is the majority of taller woman are more aware of themselves as they have nowhere to hide. Some suffer insulting comments or ridicule. I havbe always supported the woman i have been with at the time.
    My genral feelings are if you both get on and enjoy eachothers company the height isse is not an issue at all. Its other peoples issue so let them think or say what they want to and dont let it effect you.

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  83. Nico Rivera 02.Jul.11 at 6:51 am

    🙁 I’m 5’5 and this webpage makes me want to cry.

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  84. Jennifer 17.Oct.11 at 11:03 am

    Well, I’m 6’2 and my boyfriend is about 6’1. It’s tough to find a descent guy who’s also taller than me. We’re both tall, so the fact that I’m a bit taller is not that important. It all depednds on the perticular person, what really matters is to find the right guy. :):)

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  85. Jennifer 17.Oct.11 at 11:07 am

    OM, I wrote pArticular with “e”… Typing errors suck. 🙂

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  86. Lucy 06.Nov.11 at 12:06 pm

    I’m around 6ft3, I’m 24 and have dated lots of men, mostly around my hight. However I do intimidate men, since I regularly train with weights and I am also a kickboxer with a good record. I am also a very dominant person, so I have always preferred someone who isn’t dominant so to speak. Also I love my high heels, a lot of them are 6 inch heels, and havent owned any flat shoes for years apart from a pair of trainers, which are just for the gym.

    However I got to know a cute guy online, he was perfect for me, very sweet and cute, and always respected me, which is what I wanted, however he was a lot younger than me at 18, and also barely 5ft.

    When I first met him, I was wearing heels and towered over the poor guy, and he turned out only to be 4’9, he is incredibly shy, really thin and skinny, wore glasses which were clearly too big for him, but I adore him, as since we met, he has always been there for me. Granted, the hight difference proves difficult when it comes to kissing, but I just bend down and kiss him on the cheek, where he kisses my hand, which I think is so romantic.

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  87. Bruno 30.Nov.11 at 11:11 pm

    At the end of the day, a women is or isn’t going to have an issue with a man’s looks, height, weight. Just as a man will have with a woman. Personally, I am attracted to women taller than myself. My wife is 2″ taller. She is not crazy about that, but it wasn’t a deal killer. We have been an item for over 30 years. Just some advice to all. Don’t get hung up on the numbers, it will screw up the magic.

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  88. Timmy 02.Dec.11 at 11:14 am

    I know you’re not supposed to have regrets in life, but I dated a girl on and off for three years who was 6 inches taller than me (I’m 5’9″ and she’s 6’3″). I was actually the one who ended the relationship, and yes it was because I thought she was too tall, and yes I did hear sneering comments when we both walked with each other in public. Things like, “look at that tiny man with that giant woman”. No, she wasn’t overweight…both of us were pretty slim comparable to our heights…but yes she did tower over me, although 6 inches really all that much in the grand scheme of things.

    I’m older and wiser now, but if I had to do over again I would never have let her go. We had everything in common. We both enjoyed each others’ company. It was only when we went out in public did I feel awkward. Height is attractive. And I was just stupid.

    I’ve known a girl who was 4’9″ wanting to be with a guy who is 7′, which seems crazy. And I’ve seen a guy who was around 5’3″ dating a girl who was 6’5″. But to each his or her own. I think it’s sexy either way.

    And for you girls who think that 5’9″ is short, 5’9″ is actually the average height of a man in the US, and 5’4″ is the average height of a woman in the US.

    What did I learn out of this? My height is boring. I wish I was 7′ or 5’3″. I think I’d rather be shorter than taller for fear of bumping my head on things. But being 7′ would mean I’d probably be rich and playing in the NBA. No shortage of women who want a tall, rich man.

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  89. Alex 15.Dec.11 at 5:50 pm

    People, I’m from New Hampshire but I moved to Europe 4 years ago. I am exactly 6 ft(183 cm)tall and now I found a girl, who’s barely an inch taller than me. Is it so weird to be with someone, who’s only a bit taller? I’ve always dated shorter girls and I am not short myself but now I have this girl and she’s really awesome… Ok, I can probably understand people making comments on couples like girl-6’3, guy-5’4 but I’ve also heard some people talking about us that way… I think we look pretty good together and I really don’t see why an inch difference (she’s smart enough not to wear 6-inch heels) should be such an issue. What do you think? 🙂

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  90. Cagney 24.Dec.11 at 1:57 pm

    quote from “Muuurph

    11:07am, 15.Dec.08”

    above:

    (quote)
    “Damn, I found this while doing a GIS looking for porn involving tall chicks…..
    Ive been happily married to a 57? girl for 11 years now.

    …Now back to surfing for porn (what else am I going to do at work?)”

    (unquote)

    wow! what a dumb fuck.

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  91. Jim 06.Jan.12 at 7:45 am

    I am a 5’11” man.. who loves very tall women..
    I am still single at 55.. I would love to find a very tall women in my life for long term best friend.. Jim in Dover Tennessee

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  92. Zincoshine 01.Feb.12 at 1:54 am

    Rejecting a guy for being short is like rejecting a woman for having small breasts. It’s not a sexist thing to do, but it is a cheap and stupid to do. Don’t come complaining about a lack a of decent men one day, it’s your fault for rejecting them.

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  93. Big Dave 05.Feb.12 at 2:59 am

    I’m a 7 foot guy who got his height later than most being just 5’5″ in 8th grade, 5’10” as a junior, graduating at 6’8″ and finally arriving at 7′ when I at Georgia Tech. I learned to dance…I mean ballroom….Tango, foxtrot, Argentine Tango, etc.. as a 8th grader. My tennis coach taught a class after school and I couldn’t start my time till he was done. Believe it or not dancing improves your hand eye coordination, and the ability to be fast on your feet, 2 good things for tennis. I miss being able to dance with a woman who is tall and has a since of balance, timing, ear for coordination with the music. I have dated some “tall women” and personally, they tend to seldom have been exposed to this in any way. I quit dancing some time ago due to the fact I got tired of “normal sized women” managing to rub their face in my crotch while dancing…. Do you think there are any light footed tall girls in existance?

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  94. Jim Roessler 13.Mar.12 at 7:26 am

    For all my life, I have been attracted to women who are taller than I am.. I stand at 5’11”, and I am 55 years old.. I would love to have someone like you (6’5″) in my life, I like swimming, singing, bicycle and motorcycle riding.. if you are reading this.. send me an email.
    I would love to know you.. Sincerely Jim

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  95. Tolga 29.Mar.12 at 9:19 am

    ?am an average man looking for a very very tall woman who is willing to accept me. ?am nice and understanding and i will treat u as a normal girl.

    Please send a confirmation to:

    Tolgaustuner@yahoo.com

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  96. Gregg 15.May.12 at 5:16 pm

    I am 6’2″ and it would be great to meet a women as tall as i am or taller.

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  97. Timmy 28.Jul.12 at 1:56 am

    I’m 5 ft 10 and consider myself tall . No way would I date a women taller than me would make me feel inferior . Men are the dare I say the superior sex regardless what women think . And where are all these amazons I’m from uk probably seen 3 women taller than me and avoided them . I would look hideous stretching my neck to a woman towering over me it’s not right & no I’m not sexist or short

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  98. Dave 14.Dec.12 at 4:06 am

    I am 5′ 10 and I have Dated women from 5 feet to 6 .5 and from a hundred pounds to over 4hundred i dont know why some men are such cowards to be afraid of anyone in public that might consider there size as an issue if they did you dont want to know them anyway it would be like having a problem with being black or white i though we got over that kind of thing last century like in the 60’s but some people are going to be problem makers for all of us if they can just dont let them have that kind of power and we will all be better off!

    David

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  99. brian 04.Jul.13 at 11:12 pm

    i am 5-6 and3/4. which i say 5-7. was 4-9 in high school. i do like women of all shape and sizes. i could not get a date in high school with any women being that short.

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  100. Don McILwain 17.Sep.13 at 5:51 am

    Jodi I would deffinately like to meet you but I don’t think that is possible or will happen

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  101. Cassia 25.Sep.13 at 2:35 pm

    Hey this was a good post. It made me laugh I used to call my self freakishly tall also… At 6’4. When a man lands a woman of our stature Its like big game hunting. Women of all shapes and sizes are beautiful. Although I do know what you mean with the 5’10 tall thing…really? Your funny!

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  102. Cassia 25.Sep.13 at 2:37 pm

    I’m sure much taller women are like 6’5 try being 7 ft lol

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  103. Caduceus 20.Jan.14 at 8:25 pm

    I am six feet and I wish I could find a woman 6’5 or taller to date. I love tall women. I guess it has to do with the fact that I use to be a shorty for most of my childhood and teens. All my girlfriends were taller than me. I am far from insecure about a woman being taller than me. I would love her, cuddle with and hold her like no other!

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  104. Aki 02.Feb.14 at 5:46 am

    There’s something about a tall, broad shouldered woman that makes me pause. I’m def always afraid to approach significantly taller women for fear of rejection(being 5’7 and all…), but I’ve always found taller women to be attractive.

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  105. Bepina 11.Sep.14 at 2:39 pm

    Very nicely put – I’m a 6ft4 woman and I hate when people accuse tall women of being sexist because they don’t want to date a shorter guy – I’ve been rejected several times with “If you were shorter I’d date you, but you’re too tall”, and many men make remarks that I’ll never find a boyfriend because of my height, that I look a bit like a monster etc.. I gave up on shorter men because my height bothers them, not because I’m being sexist

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    1. Madeline 11.Jun.15 at 5:03 pm

      Same here, lady! 6’4 here as well. Stay strong! Height rocks! (Even if men don’t)

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      1. Jack 08.Oct.15 at 9:22 pm

        Not all men are a like I am 6’2″ and wouldn’t mind being with a woman taller then me I think it’s sexy and Beautiful I would Love to be with a tall sexy woman

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      2. Raj 21.Apr.16 at 5:24 am

        hi … i am Raj running the modeling agency from India… looking for a female height of 6’4 and above… if you are interested please do mail your details at raj232005@gmail.com

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      3. Eliot 03.Jul.18 at 8:11 pm

        I’d appreciate being with a very tall woman!

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      4. Kent Wallace 26.Oct.19 at 4:52 pm

        I have always been attracted to very tall girls and now women. In my early years I
        was a short male and most girls where taller
        and in my late teens I had a couple of growth spurts to my present height of 6’1”.
        I would be turned down because I wasn’t tall enough and fortunately now I find attractive older taller women don’t mind being with me and I appreciate and love these statuesque beauties and in fact my present love interest is an amazing 6’6” and
        at first would only wear flats and now has become comfortable wearing heels with me and of coarse I am with her. I love this beautiful woman towering over me in public and in private allowing me to love and make love to every inch of her.

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  106. Daniel 23.Aug.15 at 1:03 pm

    I’m 6ft 10in tall male and enjoying talking to every tall women I see which is not very many. Would love to slow dance with a women close to my height. I am always asked if I play basketball. I look down and say no do you play minature golf? I think I would get along great with taller women

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  107. bill 02.Sep.16 at 3:18 pm

    hi,am bill 21 years old, 5’6 tall and i realy love tall women think they’re cool.ive had couple of experince with tall women and i think that’s cool .by the way i would like to marry a tall woman and that sounds awesome.it is just that i dont have the balls,no offense.

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  108. Tracy 07.Nov.16 at 7:56 am

    Is this thread still active? My girlfriend is 6’3″ and I need some advice on clothing. I would also like to organize a tall women group in the Kansas city area.

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    1. chetana shetye 10.Feb.17 at 11:03 am

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  109. Franklin 03.Feb.17 at 2:40 pm

    I’m a 5′ 6″ Latin male who mostly went dateless in high school. I wasn’t a loner; I just couldn’t figure out the teenage dating protocols. In college, I attracted the attention of several taller girls. Who knows why. I certainly wasn’t complaining. All of them were at least 5′ 8″ and two were six foot tall blondes. I knew then, my preference would forever remain fixed. Since my late teens, I’ve dated taller women, ranging from 5′ 8″ to the tallest, a 6′ 2″ attorney from Michigan. I can’t get enough of these leggy amazons!

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  110. chetana shetye 10.Feb.17 at 10:58 am

    I am looking for 6.2 “ft ,6.4 ft” and above female for Photo shoot and movie in India.Kindly Get in touch if any one is coming to India on holiday or work purpose .I am based in Goa,India .Pay is minimum 200-500 dollars per day depending upon work n assignment.
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    my email id goaconference@gmail.com / chetanashetyegoa@gmail.com
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  111. Jack Martin 24.Apr.17 at 2:19 pm

    I am a 6’2″ guy who has always been attracted to taller women. I have been with women from 5’10” to 6’11” and find when a woman can get her height and heels out of the equation, she becomes a very very sexy woman. My present significant other is a drop dead gorgeous woman who is 6’4″ killer legs, ankles and perfect feet size 11 and not a day goes by that I don’t realize how blessed I was meeting her,

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  112. Eliot 03.Jul.18 at 8:09 pm

    I would relish the opportunity to date a tall woman. I’m 5’8 and a nice guy who likes to give and enjoy being with a 5’11 and taller.

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  113. Sabrina Martina 03.Dec.19 at 2:01 pm

    I was reading about these dudes who all want to
    be with a taller woman, ok dudes I am a beautiful
    tall woman 6’4” all legs with a serious shoe fetish
    to show off my sexy feet and ankles as well as my very long trim legs. I refuse to bend down/over to
    hug or kiss you little dudes, so if you can figure it out , go for it.

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