Why I’m Mad at Dave Grohl

Hello Darling Ones,

I have some weird, vague beef with Dave Grohl of rock & roll superstar mega fame. If you don’t know who that is, I’m not going to explain it you can skip this one. The information will not be on the final.

Why do I have weird, vague beef with Dave Grohl? I don’t know. It’s something I cannot elucidate. His universal belovedness is, as the youth say, sus to me. Because I am curious I dove into the his memoir The Storyteller yesterday.

I admit I have a huge bias against memoirs written by male musicians because the ones I’ve read are frequently really, really boring (see: Keith Richards, Pete Townsend, and Bob Mould). However, I super loved both Willie Nelson & Jeff Tweedy’s memoirs, so why not give ol’ Grohl a shot?

Darling Ones, it was really charming and funny right up to the point where it pissed me off.

Surprisingly, I was only merely annoyed over the lack of female musicians mentioned. I come to expect this from men because men do not value art made by women. I’m at the point in the book where Kurt Cobain has died and thus far Grohl has mentioned (by my count) seven female musicians/bands with women in them.

Seven.

And of the seven female musicians he mentions one is Whitney Houston and he uses her in a shitty joke about how Kurt Cobain’s pre-Nevermind apartment was so derelict it was like, “Whitney Houston’s bathroom turned upside down.”

Fuck you, Dave Grohl. That is not funny. It’s too soon. It will always be too soon to make that kind of fucking insensitive, rude, purposeless unfunny joke. You’d think a guy whose bandmate died from his addictions would be a little more sensitive. The book didn’t need this joke. These was the third comparison of things Cobain’s cruddy apartment was like. How easy would it have been to leave it out?

Frankly, I’m a little surprised I haven’t heard more about this “joke.” I told myself I was being too sensitive, that my love for Whitney Houston won’t allow me to see this clearly. I thought maybe I was hangry or tired. I ate a cookie and tried to take a nap, but I was too pissed off to sleep.

This is a shitty joke that perfectly illustrates the casual cruelty of men. Of course I am furious.

This is the exact reason why when men point out they have daughters and therefore are feminists, actual feminists everywhere roll there eyes and clench their fists. Grohl has three daughters. He opens the book about how the music is in their DNA and he still can’t be assed to mention more than seven women thus far in his book. I cannot even count how many dudes/bands he mentions, but off the top of my head without looking: Pearl Jam, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Bad Brains, Black Flag, The Stooges, Iggy Pop, Bob Dylan, Mick Jagger, Neil Young, Deep Purple, Naked Raygun, MC5, Nine Inch Nails, Bruce Springsteen.

Excuse me while I rage barf for 100 years.

Angrily yours,
Jodi

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