Two things that are stuck in my craw

First, why is it that women who have children find it totally remarkable and wholly amazing that a woman without children can be good with and good for kids? Seriously, just because you expunged a seven-pound human from your body does not mean that you are automatically nurturing, imaginative, patient, or whatever else it takes to be a good parent. While I might not have given birth yet, I’ve been taking care of children for the last, oh TWENTY-THREE years. I learned a thing or two along the way, not the least of which is how to punch you in the face.

Second, so Sister #3 is involved in a messy divorce. That sucks for her. What sucks for me is that I seem to keep landing myself in the middle of the two warring factions. It sucks ass. Mostly, because I don’t completely believe the stories either of them are feeding me and it just makes me feel awkward when they want to trash talk the other. I just have to keep my mouth shut, which is a near physical impossibility for me, smile slightly, and nod my head. I am trying to put out the “I don’t care what you grownups do, all I care about are these damn Tibbles” sort of vibe, but nobody’s picking up on it.

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  1. Wendy 14.May.08 at 6:56 pm

    The first thing drives me up the DANG wall. Hey, I’ll never shoot a fetus from my ‘gine, but I’ll take better care of someone else’s kid any time and be the best damn babysitter in the world.

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  2. Kristy 14.May.08 at 7:10 pm

    First point is a good one. Not all woman who can or do get knocked up make good mothers. Mine fucking sucked…still does. Secondly….on the divorce issue, I am divorced. I am happily divorced. This was a choice. Meaning you can choose to get on with life happily or choose to stay mired down in the b.s. that should be called “former marital status rather than current”. People need to let go. I have let go. I still think my ex is &(!&# and always will but….life has gone on.

    Next time someone is putting you in the middle simply say “Divorce can have two outcomes, you pick the outcome…it’s either a new beginning or a constant misery that never ends.” Or try saying “I care for both of you, I have never been married to either of you.”

    Or you could just say “Sorry I am Switzerland.”

    You could also tell me to screw off and mind my own business. 🙂

    Either way…hang in there…keep rocking who you are because you rock and good luck being Switzerland.

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  3. Tam 17.May.08 at 9:09 am

    After this weekend, I can guarantee you that some people are SO wrapped up in their own drama that they do not care about their children or what their soap operas do to their loved ones.

    I’ve got a long drawn out rant coming soon on my blog. Rest assured, you’re not the only one living in a complete disaster right now and as the outsider, my role is as uncomfortable as it could possibly be. Big hugs.

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