the people who post on metafilter seem to fancy themselves intelligent, informed individuals. but when the issue of weight comes up, it never fails that so many people become raging, intolerant, judgmental assholes. amazes me that people can be so insensitive. and i know i should have a thicker skin, but it’s stuff like that–that makes it so hard one people like me to lose weight. because i know the world sees me as just lazy and worthless and if so many people view me that way, maybe they are right, and then really what’s the point of making myself better, you know?
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Screw those people. Fat girls rule.
Discrimination in all its ugly forms and severities is the downfall of the human race.
Lose some wait you dumb fuck.
To previous poster. Learn to spell.
To the fat chick:
EAT FRUIT YOU DUMB F*CK!
The overweight are the only remaining group that society can still ridicule. In this world where unhealthy, heroin-chic women are lauded for their beauty, anything else is openly despised.
It reminds me of a story where two models were reading about famine in Africa. The first one spoke, “It says here that this villager hasn’t eaten anything for 3 days straight.” The second model said, “I wish I had that kind of willpower.”
Me? I agree with the famous philospher who said “Bone is for the dog; Meat is for man!”
To Bill;
Gain some weight, you emaciated, anemic little piece of worthless shit.
And grow enough balls to spell “fuck” correctly, or are you too frail of constitution to do that either?
If you never return, no one will miss your maternally-contracted syphallitic ass.
Just be happy with who you are, and to hell with the rest.
Works for me.
I didn’t know you were fat. Anyhow, that doesn’t change how I see you…. come to think of it… I don’t quite see you as anything but a person who writes about herself quite frequently, so weight really has nothing to do with you on zee computer screen. Nevertheless, fruit can actually be fattening if eaten liberally. If you’re satisfied with the way you look, screw the others and be happy or miserable or whatever turns yer screw. If you wanna lose the pounds.. learn to avoid the 5 Cs….
Here from MeFi, inspired by your post in that thread to come visit. I think that the answer is to learn whose opinions matter. Absorb those which are founded from a good place, ignore those which come from a place of hatred, fear and ignorance. People who don’t know better than to belittle and flail away aren’t worth the effort that it takes to care about what they say. Bigots’ judgmental words and thoughts are only as powerful as we make them — choose not to give them any power whatsoever.
Yeah, yeah, easier said than done. I know that. But it’s worth trying.
then really what’s the point of making myself better, you know?
That’s the wrong attitude to take. The reason for you to lose weight should not be because of how others view you as much as it should be for you to be healthy. It’s your life, don’t use that as an excuse. If you are happy about the way you live, don’t change. We’ve all got things to work on, some are just less visible.
fucking cowards piss me off. if you want your comment to mean anything, you should probably fess up to your criticism of me and my lifestyle. i’d rather be fat and brave than skinny and cowardly.
darn tootin, people who are too afraid to put their name next to their comment should just shut-up. as for fat people, people shouldn’t care what a persons weight is. As long as a person has a great personality, they can be my friend.
thanks for posting that article you wrote.
I’ve had major weight flucuations since I was 18 and know how it feels to be openly, sometimes viciously ridiculed because of it. Whatever. I go to the gym. I try to eat right. I have a wife. No amount of derogatory language (especially from anonymous online posters) can make me feel bad about myself. Don’t let them get to you, either.
Wow, as if I didn’t need more of a reason to hate Metafilter and a large majority of the monkey’s that inhabit it. (and I didn’t even bother reading the post)
Thanks for posting. I came here from Metafilter and I was mortified at the nastiness being thrown around. I like you spent my entire childhood being told that I was fat. I’m not tall tho (5’3″) so I pretty much looked like a beachball. You are right that being fat (or short or gay or disabled or anything that society says is different from the “norm”) makes you have to develop a personality. You can’t just skate by on your looks like the beautiful people. I consider this a plus. I’ve known lots of “beautiful people” and IMO they are not very interesting. Kind of a blank page just dying for a smudge. People who have not suffered some sort of adversity in life don’t seem to have much to offer.
I lost the weight. About 76lbs. after many years of depression and drug abuse and not knowing what was wrong. I had a very low opinion of myself and I surounded myself with people who agreed with my opinion. I got clean (9yrs. now) and happy (lots of therapy) and stopped trying to please everyone but me. Food stopped being the only thing that “really understood” me and just became fuel for life. I eat anything I want, I just eat a little bit of it. I had to start moving, but with the back problems I had the only thing I could do was Yoga. It worked. I felt better and more relaxed. It didn’t happen overnight, it took about 1 1/2yrs. But I wasn’t doing it for someone else or on their time table.
The key is to make yourself happy first. If the weight makes you unhappy tackle one pound at a time. If it doesn’t then just realize that what other people think about you is really none of your business and kick the assholes to the curb!!