Comments on: The sadness zombie

By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 04:56:10 +0000

I’m so sorry. I lost my own beautiful orange and white boy cat in November, and while I am no longer constantly sobbing it’s still hard. I still have two and the young upstart has decided I am claimable territory now (she previously loved my husband and kids but realized I was clearly taken) but people who don’t love pets will never understand that deep soul bond with your special snimal. All I can offer is it gets better.

By: Caryn

Caryn — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 19:23:32 +0000

It’s hard, it’s just so hard.

The best thing I did was let myself write about my cat’s passing, and let myself publish it – even though my boyfriend said “Isn’t that a little too personal?” Yeah, but so what?

So, so sorry for your loss.

By: Lesley

Lesley — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 16:29:12 +0000

I love to read about your personal stuff, even the very sad stuff, because it comes right out of your heart and into mine and comforts me. Sensitivity is the two-edged sword. The happy is more intense, but so is the sad. *hug*

By: Peabo

Peabo — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 04:30:27 +0000

I’ve thought of you every day since it happened, and each time I well up, because I get it. To a single person, a pet is so much more than a pet. I know the marrieds and the families love their pets fully and completely, but there’s something to be said for an animal that is asked to fill the space of a fellow human being’s companionship and rises to that challenge. It’s a tall order, and Madison met it with a level of commitment that most cats don’t. Sixteen and a half years. That’s love, right there.

So, wallow. Be sad. Mourn. There’s no time limit, no right or wrong, no rules. Whatever you do is right. And Paco will change…he’s mourning too. When my Simon died, Favre became a completely different chinchilla–in a good way, fortunately. The vet said it would happen and I didn’t believe her–I was all “Dude, they’re rodents.” But it’s true.

And one of the best proven healers of a broken heart is Grumpy’s tator tots. So, when you’re ready, let’s go get some. I’ll wear my pajamas.

By: Angela

Angela — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 00:50:47 +0000

I am so sorry. It’s just the hardest thing, isn’t it? The thing is, it just has to hurt and there’s nothing you can do about it until it hurts less and less and finally you canbear it. But it never goes away. And that’s ok.