@Lisa Weinstein,
It’s funny everyone I know who had a big wedding said if they could do it all over, they’d elope. But the one person I know who eloped (and it’s only one) said she wished she’d have had a big wedding.

I also don’t understand the bigotry that leads to anti-gay discrimination. It makes no sense. And yes, people do spend way too much money on weddings. Looking back at my own wedding, if I had to do it again, I’d elope!

Well @Jodi, I would not classify the film as a wedding movie; that may be a semantical distinction for some. However, on your larger point, men play a very small role in the resolution of the plot (in fact, only the charming Chris O’Dowd has much of a role at all of the male actors in it); I can say without equivocation that my take would NOT be that a man “makes things better” in it. (There’s even a specific jab against the Katherine Heigl drek in a bit of dialogue.) This movie has definite elements that seem in response to the sort of wedding porn, not playing into the same traps of it.

I assure you: If it were that crap, I would not waste a single electron on this quasi-defense of it.

@Doug, I’m not saying Bridesmaids isn’t probably (from what I’ve read) the best of the wedding ilk, but it’s still of that ilk where a man can/will make things better. Right?

(and if I ever decide to get married and have a weddings I’ll disappear the shit out of this post)

While I am very much on the marriage-for-everyone bandwagon (and was disgusted when Prop. 8 passed here in California–even knowing it would be overturned), and certainly support anyone’s choice not to marry if he/she doesn’t want to, I cannot quite agree with your premise that spending a bunch of money on education would change the minds of the narrow-minded.

Those midday “reality” shows to which you allude are part of why I’m glad I’m not at home at those hours so I cannot accidentally come across those freaks. But to say those are representative of the average wedding is… well, okay, kinda applicable.

And not to ruin a perfectly good rant, but as one who saw Bridesmaids (and enjoyed it very much) I will say: You read the wrong things about the film. I’m not saying there aren’t plenty of hideous movies worthy of being referenced in your rant, but you really should have gone on more than quasi-hearsay. If you don’t feel inclined to see it, don’t see it, but I really cannot get behind lumping it in with the other stuff in this post.