Comments on: partly melancholy with a chance of bitchy

By: UH

UH — Fri, 22 Jul 2005 02:45:29 +0000

I can’t speak to that, since I’ve been married since I was 18, and more-or-less married since I was 16.

However, I can say that “lonely or annoyed” represents the extremes of the spectrum, and there are myriad points between.

By: PeeWee

PeeWee — Fri, 22 Jul 2005 02:11:38 +0000

I heard a comedian on the radio who said “married vs. single basically boils down to this: would you rather be lonely or annoyed?”
I am almost 42. I was married for 11 years, now divorced. I have been on both sides of the fence, and I think that is one of the most brilliant things I have EVER heard.
I would rather be lonely. And I don’t think I am lonely, just alone. I don’t know a whole lot of truly happy marrieds, but I know a ton of happy singles. I don’t know why if someone is unhappy single, they think being married will improve that. Marriage just intensifies it.

By: Pam Brown

Pam Brown — Thu, 21 Jul 2005 14:46:53 +0000

EVERYBODY has a fear of abandonment. It’s the human condition.

By: jodi

jodi — Thu, 21 Jul 2005 13:26:51 +0000

i think you both have wonderful guesses. my fear of abandonment is as big as the world and as deep as the ocean.

By: Thomas

Thomas — Thu, 21 Jul 2005 11:43:43 +0000

Or perhaps you have such a fear of abandonment that it’s convinced you that if you don’t have a man ever, then at least you don’t have to worry about him leaving you.

Or it could just be a bullshit guess.