Comments on: the march of the if onlys https://iwilldare.com/2004/01/the-march-of-the-if-onlys/ A little bit of heaven & A whole lot of hell Mon, 26 Jan 2004 17:52:07 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.2 By: Helen https://iwilldare.com/2004/01/the-march-of-the-if-onlys/#comment-8837 Mon, 26 Jan 2004 17:52:07 +0000 https://iwilldare.com/?p=3823#comment-8837 In the West the goal of life is to BE happy. In the east the goal of life is just to BE.

Something to ponder.

]]> By: minnekeith https://iwilldare.com/2004/01/the-march-of-the-if-onlys/#comment-8836 Mon, 26 Jan 2004 16:24:12 +0000 https://iwilldare.com/?p=3823#comment-8836 Let me echo Thomas. It’s human nature.

The “if onlies” are related to the ” be happy when’s”.

Like, I’ll be happy when I get married.
I’ll be happy when I get that pHD.
I’ll be happy when I make X amount of income. etc. etc.

Comes a point when you have to decide that I’ll be happy now cause no one else is going to do it for me.

and don’t stop wishing to have it better. It also makes us human.

]]> By: Thomas https://iwilldare.com/2004/01/the-march-of-the-if-onlys/#comment-8835 Mon, 26 Jan 2004 11:53:39 +0000 https://iwilldare.com/?p=3823#comment-8835 The “if only’s” are quite a common theme for everyone; If not in their conscious, it’s in their subconscious.

Even when you’re happy, blissfully happy in some cases, the “if only’s” creep up into your head and start playing their demented game. “If only you had completed a degree.”, “If only you had shed your introvert persona earlier.”, “If only you had actually had the nerve to pull the trigger all alone on that desolate country road that sultry July evening.”

I’ve said before that I wouldn’t change a thing in my life; I’m happy where I am. But just because I wouldn’t change a thing doesn;t mean I can’t obsess about how drasticly different my life, or the life of those I’ve interacted with, would be if I could; Even to the point of seeing how much better off people could have been had I not mucked up their lives. It’s about that time I get over myself, wipe the tears from my eyes and think about much more shallow indulgences.

]]> By: Keith https://iwilldare.com/2004/01/the-march-of-the-if-onlys/#comment-8834 Mon, 26 Jan 2004 03:49:03 +0000 https://iwilldare.com/?p=3823#comment-8834 Can I cut and paste this entry into my blog and just pretend I said it? Or I could just put the whole thing in italics and pretend I thought it. All I’d have to do is change a couple of gender references and I’d be on my way.

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