My heart breaks for you, too.

You are lovable, and it’s wretchedly unfair that he’s pinning those feelings on a dead relationship. You are likable, and while he likes you a lot, he’s UNABLE to give you what you NEED. His absence of available love can only be described as maddening; He needs to move on before he can give that love to someone else, but he’s mired in grief for the love lost with his ex.

It’s all him, Jodi. And it sucks, but know that it’s all him. You’re perfectly fine, he just can’t let go of the past to embrace the present… to embrace you completely.

Once TTHM finally sees that his mourning of his past relationship is gaining him nothing but an emotional equivalent of picking off scabs with a spon of salt, he’ll be able to offer love to the lovable. If he’s extremely lucky and fast, you might still be there. But only if he’s lucky and fast.