Comments on: why does what i’m saying hurt you?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 08 May 2003 19:45:08 +0000

maybe they didn’t change so drastically, maybe it was slower but he didn’t want to admit it because of the promises he’d made. you wouldn’t have liked an asshole, so he probably isn’t one. usually what seems to hold us back from relationships is fear, it’s not you dear, so stop trying to change yourself to fit what you think he might be expecting, it just is. it’s not him, it’s not you, the combo just wasn’t right for him at this time. look how Jen on Dawson shied away from her guy when her granma got cancer, it wasn’t his fault, it was the situation.

By: jodi

jodi — Thu, 08 May 2003 17:48:40 +0000

but that still doesn’t explain anything. WHY did his feelings change so suddenly and drastically? WHY would he be so nice to me for so long if he didn’t feel anything? just saying he’s an asshole is easy, but that’s not it we all know that.

By: Thomas

Thomas — Thu, 08 May 2003 15:48:27 +0000

If he’s not hurt then he never put any emotion into it in the first place.

Because he never put emotion into, he won’t miss you.

Because he won’t miss you he hurts you.

Anyone that hurts you is an asshole in MY book.

And you deserve far, far more than to be missed; you DESERVE to be cherished and loved and not to be treated badly.

By: jodi

jodi — Thu, 08 May 2003 14:31:36 +0000

but he’s not an asshole. that’s the problem. i just don’t understand how something can be going so swell and then not. that’s the problem. i need to understand. plus i want to be missed and i want him to be hurt that it didn’t work out. and i want so much and maybe that’s the problem. i want more than i deserve.

By: Thomas

Thomas — Thu, 08 May 2003 14:28:46 +0000

Assholes hide their asshole-ness because they can.

Assholes delight in leading someone on, holding out that dangling bauble of safety, security and a lifetime together.

Assholes hurt people because it’s what they do to make themselves feel better. Then they get defensive when they’re accused of hurting people.

Assholes stink, and they’re full of shit.