Comments on: fraudulent eyes

By: Wes

Wes — Sat, 10 May 2003 09:46:40 +0000

>Wes, I could kiss you… a long, slow, lingering >kiss…
>(Now THAT’S kinda creepy, even for me…)
>– Thomas @ 8:14 AM : 09.May.03

I think, at least I hope, that your wife would mind a little more if you kissed me than jodi. I know I would mind more.

That said, I will now go wash my eyes. Back in a few.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 09 May 2003 17:59:14 +0000

Magicvixen, well said, I’d like to think that something like this, a public forum, is here for the public, in a way that if a young teenage girl or boy doing research about tanning beds comes here, maybe there’s a life lesson here or just guidance toward a life lesson that is being offered up. Jodi offers a focal point, but it seems many of the comments are offered up in support of not only her, but to her whole public web of readers; otherwise, we’d just email her in private (and privacy is one of those inalienable rights equal to freedom of speech–so far here in the US). We can all grow from each others’ wisdom, your post above is fine example of it. Right/Write On!!!!

By: Magicvixen

Magicvixen — Fri, 09 May 2003 17:11:31 +0000

okay, listen up.

i, for one, believe that jodi is an able bodied adult that probably would be more than able to decide if her relationship with someone is causing her more pain than joy, and if she need not hear something from someone who is clearly a friend of hers. if it’s all out in the open, then what’s the problem? jodi is an adult perfectly capable of stopping hurtful “phrasing”. if she wants to be talked to in a tone less sexual, she’ll probably say something hersef, and not rely on an anonymous poster to speak for her. that said, there isn’t anything wrong with posting an honest opinion about another post in a forum. Wbut what is troublesome is the accusatory tone set from the start.

and to thomas, i only offer up this:

while i have noticed jodi is extraordinarily hard on herself, it really is up to only her to convince herself that she is beautiful, vibrant, amazing, a good person, etc. and while it is necessary to have supportive people to reaffirm this fact in her life, it truly is her own duty to believe this for herself. no amount of sexual undertone and reassurance or positivity from someone outside of a person can convince them of their worth. neither can the appearance of a loving man/partner/husband/boyfriend in their life convince a woman that she is worth loving, caring for, etc..before she learns that even alone she is all of these things.

we all have a past and our past affects who we are as people. but there comes a time in life where we have to take control and decide who we are and will be in the future. no one will or can decide for us, and people use the past as an excuse far too often for their laziness to do a little self-work and relize, fially, that the people in control of their life woking out is, in fact, only them. Blaming other people or blaming our past hurtful and terrorizing experiences for our present inadequacies is taking the easy way out and only ends in spining our proverbial wheels until we have dug ourselves so deep into the ground that we can never get out. My advice to jodi is to look inside of yourself and see who you truly are. Discover yourself, see your entire self, good and bad…and learn to love it all (and not just say you do, or love only most of it). If you cant love everything about you, how can you ever expect someone else to? Like I said before, though, people can say this to you until they are blue in the face, but it is up to ONLY you to do something about it.

that doesnt change, however, that you have a whole world full of people out here rooting for you. this forum debate alone should be evidence of that.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 09 May 2003 14:29:41 +0000

I figured out why Thomas’s comments seem unsettling. He writes like he is Jodi’s lover, telling her how yummy and delicious she is. In a healthy relationship, what I deem to be healthy, the two people involved are on an equal level and treat each other with mutual respect. If Jodi were to reply to Thomas’s posts in the same “mushy” fashion, she may feel she is running the risk of stepping over boundaries that belong to his wife. If Thomas were to write me in the same manner he writes Jodi, my husband would probably feel that Thomas is overstepping his bounds. So Thomas, this is just a suggestion, which obviously you need not follow, encourage Jodi as a friend, not a lover. Soon she’ll find that guacamole licking guy who is not attached, who has not committed his heart to someone else, who can whisper sweet nothings in her ear, without fearing recriminations from someone else he belongs to. It’s as though her heart is a muscle that occasionally must be stretched by pain and ache so it is strong enough to uphold a real, lasting relationship with someone who likes her as much as she likes him, in a totally reciprocal relationship.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Fri, 09 May 2003 14:10:23 +0000

Back to the topic at hand… I think you should put in one blue one and leave the other eye “naked” and see how long it takes the coworkers to notice. I did that with a pair of shoes once (one hiking boot, one chuck taylor) and it took people about two hours to say something about it.